Over at the 20SB forums, someone posted a question in the “Quarterlife Crisis” area that caught my attention. I’m not going to post the question here in its entirety, but I will post my response. Basically, the question was from a 21-year-old asking whether the 20′s is when life gets easier. Riiiiight.
I don’t think it’s like a switch where all of a sudden you’re living the good life. If you live life anticipating something like that you’re only going to end up disappointed. Sure, some people luck out but they’re in the minority, right?
I think…this age is more a time when pieces really start falling into place. Or rather, it’s a time when you start recognizing what the pieces are, whereas before it all you had was a vague image. At best you need to get those pieces to fit in such away that you can feel satisfied. It won’t ever be perfect–because “life happens.”
Your priorities will change, and as a result your perspective will change. You’ll come to realize or accept what makes you fundamentally happy, and that may not necessarily be what you listed. That happens at different times for different people, but the 20′s is a ripe time for it to happen. It’s an on-going process and not a ‘eureka’ thing. The whole thing about decisions doesn’t really end–they give you drive and push you to move forward.
Now, alright, I’m not claiming to have found ‘it.” However, I do know that it’s all about perspective. I know that I can’t expect to have everything right away. I’m not going to let that hold me down though. As long as I set goals and work hard to achieve them, I will keep moving forward. The joy then not only comes from ultimately achieving, but also in the process of getting there.
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