Monthly Archive: May 2008

Villain

Please allow me to let my mind wander for a bit tonight…

Every once in a while I’ll fall into a state of mind where my mental and emotional states become heightened. It often causes me to drive and push people away from me. During more regular days I may easily ignore the antics of people around me, but during these weird days I’m more apt to shoot daggers from my eyes, envisioning each one piercing the soul of the deserving target. Everyone’s got these days–I think I just have more trouble dealing with them in comparison to most other people. I really have to make an effort to better mask my thinly veiled contempt. It’s not from a lack of trying. When I do manage to not appear supremely pissed, somehow my venom seeps through and laces my words.

It’s not good. It makes me unapproachable. It makes me the villain.

I was like that on Friday, and I ended up feeling guilty about it afterwards. Why? I wasn’t giving out the patience that I would expect others to give me. I wasn’t entertaining the interests of people around me, even if all they wanted to do was share their happiness. I put up a shield around me that forced people to find a better time to deal with me. It’s not a good state to be in because it is energy sapping–not just for me, but the people around me who suddenly have to walk on eggshells.

I’ve always been like this. I can recall a moment back in high school where there was as example of this happening. A classmate came to ask me a question regarding an assignment while I was in one of my dark places. He stopped, and remarked to someone else with a dismissive wave in my direction “oh, Jason’s in one of his moods again.” Back then all I could think was “Well, fuck you! What’s the mood thing you’re talking about? There’s nothing wrong!” Except that there was.

It’s tough. I can swing between being quite warm-hearted to being all prickly rather easily. I’m fortunate to have friends that recognize this and know how to deal with it. I know though that I’ve lost possible friendships with people who aren’t as adept at figuring it all out. I know I’ve steamrolled over some of these “victims.” It drives me nuts. I can recognize that I’m not necessarily a bad or evil person, however knowing my nature it makes me wonder how anyone can possibly end up living with me and accepting both my light and my dark. It’s some powerful stuff, and I’d be afraid of it swallowing someone whole. It’s gonna take a strong woman to know what to do with it, and how to drive the energy into something productive.

Although…

Why do I have to wait for someone to be that conduit for me? It reminds me of that Björk song Immature. I can’t expect someone to fill in what’s missing, or to act as counterbalance. Expecting that would just be lazy. Although…if I really think about what I’ve been saying, I’m not looking for someone to “fix” me. I know my faults. They’re all laid out and plain to see. I can’t see myself hiding these facets entirely–it just leaves me wondering if there’s anyone that can deal with it.

So, I suppose it’s one reason I strive to be a strong, singular, self-sufficient unit. If I have to be the occasional villain, I can’t automatically expect a partner in crime. Maybe one day I’ll be blessed enough to find my counterpart. Until then I have to work harder to do two things: keep the dark side of me in check, and to learn to fully embrace it.

How can I expect someone to deal with my duality until I know how to deal with it myself?

Wire: level-up!

ワイヤー: レベル アップ!

My appointment with the dentist was originally set for Monday of next week, but due to the bagel incident I called in to have it moved to yesterday. My teeth are coming along nicely. As usual the dentist and hygienist were really pleased with the progress. I lot has been fixed in just 5 months. However, I still have a while to go.

They decided to move me up to a thicker wire. I don’t know how the wire progression works, but I guess that they increase the thickness/stiffness as the teeth get closer to where they need to be. Anyway, it’s the day after and everything is aching more than expected. For me, usually post adjustment the discomfort is pretty minimal. Today though it’s kind of hurting to really bite down. I woke up at 4 in the morning feeling like someone had socked me in the jaw. I was trying to figure out how to position my head while sleeping so that I wouldn’t be putting undue pressure on my teeth. However, there was no relief. I’m sure I’ll be fine in a few days, but right now I’m mildly annoyed. It’s all part of the process though, isn’t it?

That’s what my daddy’s made me…

This music video makes me laugh.
Simian Mobile Disco – Hustler

Oh, vile bagel day!

Oh, vile bagel day, how could you treat me so? You urged me to eat your wares, but when I partook you cursed me and further dislodged my already precariously positioned wire! Yes, it was already out of bracket, but your dough knocked a few remaining bands out, causing the wire to wantonly float free. Oh, how you have caused me much irritation! I’m now constantly arranging and rearranging, trying to find comfort where none can be found. Here I sit, a victim of your fickle will, waiting for time to pass until my dentist can set things right.

Oh, wretched bagel day! May the heavens take pity on thee!

White flag on long hair

So, I mentioned in a comment in a previous post that I had my hair cut shorter than it’s been in quite a while. Over the past year or so I was flirting with growing it all out, insisting that it’s possible for me to let it go and not look a mess. Seems I’ve been wrong, unfortunately. It’s been easy to tell just by the reactions of people around me. My parents have commented that I look younger and a lot more neat. My colleagues have been a little bit more subtle. In the past, whenever I’d get a trim they’d just say something like “Oh…you got a haircut.” This time around it changed to “Oh…nice haircut!”

Language is an awesome beast, isn’t it? Such a slight syntax change revealed so much.

Anyway, I’m waving my white flag on this issue. I give up! Long hair just doesn’t work for me. Feh.

Gripped so tight

Since today’s a holiday here in Canada, I had the day off to catch up on some rest and do some more domestic stuff after this weekend’s hectic schedule. Prior to waking up this morning though, I had a few moments of panic. As I lay in bed, part of my mind was screaming out saying that I had a monitoring shift scheduled today and that I had to be at work by 8 am!

Wha?

I took a look at my alarm clock: 7:34 am. Too late! I was screwed! I was going to start running around getting myself together, but before getting up I paused. I was wracking my brain, trying to remember if I really had something scheduled. Nothing. Some part of me actually said that it’s OK because my shifts were scheduled for another time. Well great. I went back to sleep, but again part of me was saying that I had a morning shift. Well, now that M-day has passed, we’re no longer doing the shifts. It took me a few minutes before all of that fully registered. Even after waking up it took me a few minutes to really shake off the feeling that I had missed work.

This is messed up, isn’t it? Has work got me gripped so tight that my mind thinks about it when it doesn’t have to? I refuse to believe it! No, no, no. This was just a small blip, right? Oh man, I need to get away.

(And I will–soon. Oh ho ho…will talk about it in the coming days)

Running log: 2008/05/18

This is now officially the long distance that I’ve run in one go. By the time I got back to the store my Garmin said that I finished off 14K. I felt awesome. In all honesty, I was feeling so good that I could have gone on for another kilometre or two.

Only a few of us showed up this morning. We all steeled ourselves for another long one. The instructor was away at the cottage, so the group leader was the only one there to take us through. She said that we’d be attempting to run slower than usual today at which I just smirked. Well, I kept up for the first kilometre. By the second and third I started to lag. I kind of prefer it that way, because really that’s sort of what I’m used to. Actually, I slowed down partly because again my left ankle and right shin were acting up. It’s not the first time they’ve been stupid, so maybe I should get my biomechanics checked out.

Anyway, the rest of the group did pull up far enough ahead that I was no longer able to see them. It was at that point that I felt a bit at ease. I mean, whenever I see them with my eyes off a couple hundred metres in front of me something subconsciously makes me push a little harder just to catch up even when I’m physically in no condition to do so. For example, at the end of 4K I saw the group waiting at a stop light. Without much thought I just gunned it up the hill to catch up. And I did. However as soon as we started again I was so wiped out from pushing hard that they just easily pulled away, leaving me in the dust again. It was at that point that I remembered how foolish it was to try to catch up. These LSD runs are supposed to be well-below race speed–so if I’m pushing ridiculously hard then something is wrong.

Well, as I was left to myself, I meditated upon the route. The instead of thinking hard about how much was left to the end, I just focused on the next point of reference. For example, I remember thinking at one point that it wasn’t far to the 7K point, at which point it’s all just a return trip. No problem! I was able to mark out 3K legs along the way. Doing so made the distance seem much more manageable. I spent a great deal of time focusing on the achiness. I was willing for it all to not become pain–that was a big possibility. I could sense that one misstep or bad position would cause me to collapse in a heap of goo far away from my car. Not good.

I eventually eased into a pace that felt kind of good. It was a relaxed pace. Even though it was slow, my heart rate was where I needed it to be, meaning that I knew I was going at the right speed for me. Without even thinking about it, the discomfort in my legs left me. Time passed by quickly. It was so relaxed that I didn’t feel a need to stop after 6K. Usually I do my 10/1 intervals religiously on Sundays, but today I felt strong enough to keep going. Even if I wanted to speed up, something mentally anchored me and kept me to pace. Time stretched on but I felt free of it. I was in my own world, just continuing on without a care. At about 13K the skies opened up and it started raining on me. I just laughed! What else could I do? I thought about running faster, but I thought: “I’m going to be wet no matter what–it really doesn’t matter.” So, I stuck it out.

When I got back, I was feeling strong. Fourteen! Whoo! If someone asked me to do a few more, no problem! They’d be slow kilometres, but they’d get done! In store, the group leader was still around and cheered me on. She said she was proud of me for completing the distance. I guess I had a dissatisfied look because she was urging me to believe that she was sincere. I guess part of me wished I could be with everyone, but really the awesomeness of what just happened didn’t really strike me until I got home.

So where does that leave me now? If you recall, I’ve been trying to figure out what to do when the 10K clinic ends. Well, now that I know that I can do the distance, I don’t want to lose any gains I’ve made. So that means that I won’t do the 10K again for now. Yes, I could benefit from getting stronger and faster, but I suspect that building distance will help that come more naturally. Will I join the half-marathon clinic? I’m not sure yet because I know that I’m going to be a lot slower than most of the group–I don’t want anyone to slow down their own training just to keep me company. Although I might really benefit from having something scheduled.

So, another piece of the puzzle is in place. Time to figure out the rest.

Brownie experimentation

A week or two ago I picked up The Barefoot Contessa Cookbook by Ina Garten after seeing it at a lower than expected price at Wal-Mart. God, is there anything that that store can’t undercut? Yeesh. Anyway, when flipping channels, if I see her show playing on the Food Network I often stop to have a look. A lot of what she does looks pretty heavy, but the presentation is often really good. I’ve been wanting to try something of hers out for a while, which was a reason of mine to get her book.

Well, the first thing I attempted from the book was her recipe for Outrageous Brownies. I saw her bake it in an episode where she was taking stuff to the beach. She baked these huge brownies and stuffed the results into Chinese take-out containers. They looked awesome. So when I saw the recipe in the desserts section of the book I was eager to give it a go. So last Saturday I went to the store and gathered all the ingredients. I was shocked at just how expensive some of these recipes can be. Seriously. With the pounds of chocolate, the walnuts, butter, and vanilla the cost quickly went up. Luckily the recipe has a high yield, but man it’s something that I can’t do all that often.

Putting it all together was pretty simple. The chocolate and butter mixture was all velvety smooth and shiny. I’d never really played with melting chocolate in the past so this was pretty awesome. I followed the recipe pretty closely, except for the fact that I used 6 large eggs instead of the 6 extra-large eggs that were needed. I didn’t think it would be that much of an issue. Seeing it all come together gave me a certain amount of joy. There’s this underlying creative force that happens with baking that’s really rewarding if you let it happen. When I put it in the oven I was waiting with excitement to see how it all turned out. Well, when it came out, it was kind of duller than I expected in comparison to some of the other store-bought brownies. After cutting it up, each piece was really quite crumbly. I was expecting it to be rather fudgy, but instead it came out like a bit of a dry cake. Sure, it tasted awesome, but the consistency and look wasn’t right. I was rather disappointed but decided not to blame the recipe.

Anyway, today we have a get together at our house, so I thought it was a great chance to give it all another go. I follow the recipe as closely as possible again, but this time I used 7 eggs instead of 6. I figured that the extra egg would make up for the lack in size. Again, it all came together pretty easily. When I pulled the result out of the oven I was in total shock. The crust was all shiny and really gleamed under the stove lights. See, this was the look I was going for. After cooling down, I had a bite and daaaamn was it good.

I cut it all up and set up a nice pile for the guests. So far everyone that’s eaten a piece has complimented me on it. So yeah, Barefoot’s Outrageous Brownies were a success for me. I’m not going to post the recipe here (ask me if you want), but I can at least say that if you do pick up the recipe it will turn out rather well. I will at least post some pics here showing the progress during baking.

Awesome. Awesome. Awesome.

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