It’s kind of becoming an ongoing joke of sorts at work, isn’t it? People constantly assume that I’m married and/or have kids. It’s pretty consistent. Inevitably, when I tell the person making the assumption otherwise they act as if they’re in shock. Some people I interact with tend to forget and then proceed to ask me about my non-existent wife and kids. Yes, I find it amusing, but it also makes me wonder if I’m really supposed to be at that point in my life right now. Hell, everyone else seems to think I should be.

*grumble*

You know, I can easily make some assumptions in terms of why people might think that way. Maybe it’s my grumpiness. Maybe it’s my serious demeanour. Maybe it’s because I can have an air of having self-control. Maybe it’s my large presence. I’m sure my relative domesticity has something to do with it too. How the heck do I know? Back on May 29, 2009, Julius asserted that the fact that I was working probably played a big part in it. That’s all well and good, but the thing that shoots that theory down for me is that not everyone on the team is assumed to be wed, or close to being wed.

The other day, someone that was on my team but got transferred came by our area for a visit. After some greetings, out of the blue she asked me when I’m getting married. I didn’t know how to respond. It was a random question that came out of nowhere. I guess I must have looked stunned because a colleague of mine that’s aware of my predicament just broke into a fit of laughter. After I got my thoughts together I just replied that that would require having a girlfriend. She got this stunned look and stated honestly: “How are you surviving?” Ha!

I laughed it off, but honestly I kind of take issue with that. Is the assumption that someone like me wouldn’t be able to be self-sufficient? Is the assumption that I need a girl to take care of me? No, really, I want to know. I’ve had to learn to do a lot of “domestic” stuff. I mean, who else is going to do all of that stuff for me, you know?

*grumble*

For now, I’m going to assume that I’m on the right track. I can do more in life if I can maintain the focus that I’ve got. Stay the course!