I’m currently reclining on my couch, reflecting on the fact that my shirt smells like pot roast. No, I didn’t cook pot roast in my condo, although, I’m more than capable of making an excellent roast. Perhaps sometime soon I want to experiment with making pulled pork. Anyway, no, I smell like pot roast because that’s what my mom had made for dinner. My aunts from New York have been visiting for the week, and this is their last day here. As such, my mother decided to do the roast. She called me earlier today to get me to come over for dinner. Well hey, why not? It’s not that I was looking for a free meal, but I just wanted to spend time with my extended family while they’re here, you know?
It’s not the first time I was called over for dinner. On Sunday I went over there for dinuguan which was really great. It’s been a long while since I’ve had that. I was sent back with some stew leftover stew which I’ve been downing every now and then. I was also called over on Wednesday because they were barbecuing a lot of food. As tempting as it was, I passed on that meal because I couldn’t justify the trip over.
So therein lies an issue, no? How often is too much? I love my family dearly, but I don’t want to be heading over to my parents’ place so frequently. As much as they’re not that far away, it still takes time and effort just to head over. After a long day of work it’s not unreasonable for me to want to just relax in my place, right? Also, I don’t want to risk becoming reliant on free meals. Yeah, I seem to be responsible when it comes to cooking, but if I keep getting free meals and leftovers where’s the incentive to put the effort in?
OK, so I don’t want to seem like I’m complaining. I’m not at all! I’m just saying that I shouldn’t lose sight of my independence. Makes sense, yes?
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2 comments
kyleen says:
Sat. August 29, 2009 at 8:28 am (UTC -5 )
I see my folks probably three to five times a week. At least one of those ends up with me eating there. (I’ve been better about that because of the diet). And I’m far older than you. Heh.
At your age, if I didn’t show up, Mom would just sent left overs. While I’m certain you appreciate your independence, it’s good to let our folks do things for us because letting go is hard.
Baby steps, you know?
Jay says:
Tue. September 1, 2009 at 9:59 pm (UTC -5 )
Yeah, of course. It’s not like I’m disconnecting from them entirely. I guess I’m just trying to find the balance. It’s quite comfortable whenever I head over there. The familiarity of it all just puts me at ease. Still, no way I should rely on that.