It’s come up a couple of times in the past few days, so I figure I’d try ruminating about this topic out loud. It’s not one I generally write about, but I thought I’d give it a shot. It seems that after all this time I’m perhaps not all that sure about what I want in a woman. Sure, there are a good number of qualities in mind, but it’s all still kind of a jumble. Perhaps that’s sort of contributing to the fact that I haven’t found anyone. Well, that, and the fact that I haven’t even put in a good effort. You know what? I’m fine with that fact. As of this moment, I’m quite fine on my own. All the same, I might as well put this out there.
What am I looking for?
I want someone that I can treat as an equal.
I’m looking for someone that has an opinion and understands the need for give and take.
I want someone that has her act together sufficiently (whatever that means), or is at least goal oriented.
I want someone that was a lot of wit, but isn’t above occasional toilet humour.
I’m looking for a certain level of sophistication.
I want someone that likes good things, but also understands how to manage money properly.
I want someone that’s adaptable that understands how to act in varying situations.
I wish for someone sensitive, yet firm when needed.
I want someone that’s well-read and can talk about arcane topics on occasion.
I’m looking for someone that digs adventure, but understands the need to be a homebody.
I’m looking for someone that understands the need for light sides and dark sides.
I want someone that knows how to encourage me without being patronizing.
I wish for someone that can stun me when dressed up for a special occasion.
I want someone that is detail-oriented and conscientious of others.
I want someone that recognizes my untapped potential knows how to get me to be the best that I can be. I would like to do the same for her.
Too many conditions? I don’t know. I think this just means that I have a clear image in terms of personality.
Ooooooh, God help me.
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6 comments
CeltGoddess says:
Sun. July 4, 2010 at 2:48 am (UTC -5 )
Sorry, I’m already taken! ;0P
By the way, your desciption of your ideal candidate is a little vague. Can you be more specific? lol
Jay says:
Thu. July 8, 2010 at 10:37 pm (UTC -5 )
I probably could be. Just that I didn’t want to seem too neurotic. Hah.
blackprophet says:
Sun. July 4, 2010 at 4:05 pm (UTC -5 )
The best way to find out what you really NEED is through trial and error. IMHO.
Jay says:
Thu. July 8, 2010 at 10:39 pm (UTC -5 )
Entirely valid point. If I can quote Alanis, these are “not necessarily needs, but qualities that I prefer.” I have no ranking for any of these as of yet but I’m sure over time some obvious deal-breakers and important qualities will be made known.
Erin says:
Sun. July 4, 2010 at 10:08 pm (UTC -5 )
I think if I were to write out my mental list it might actually be longer than yours…
Jay says:
Thu. July 8, 2010 at 10:39 pm (UTC -5 )
Yeah, everyone’s got a good list, eh? Just a matter of figuring out which ones you can learn to get by without, I guess.