Category Archive: vanity

How the interview went

The whole process of going from first contact to interview was a speedy one. I responded to the cold call mid-week, and managed to get an interview scheduled at the end of the following week. Like I mentioned, when all of the fuss started I had just finished revising my résumé. In response to the voicemail, I sent an email expressing interest, and that was followed by one of those awkward phone calls requiring me to slyly slink away from my desk. I suppose the slinking was optional since walking away to take the call would have sufficed. Once I got all the info I needed, I sent over my document. Later that night I got a note saying I was presented to my prospective company. That’s when I started freaking out because I didn’t have anything to wear to any future interview. That’s why I took advantage of that sale at Moore’s.

By the following Wednesday I got confirmation that they were interested in interviewing me. It would involve a written test, a verbal presentation on a given topic followed by general questions. I was asked by the recruiter whether I needed more time to prepare for all of that. I gave it some thought but I ended up just scheduling the interview for Friday. Two days seemed enough for me. The topic for the presentation wasn’t too hard, and I felt like I could make it through the written part with whatever knowledge I already had on hand. I thought, if I had to study hard for the written part can I really consider myself as being qualified? Good question. As such I took a confident stance and just took the jump.

The day of the interview came quickly. I was decked out in my new suit, looking sharp. I made a conscious decision not to shave though in order to not raise too many alarms when I would later arrive late for work. I gave myself 40 minutes to drive to the company, not knowing what morning traffic would be like. I actually made it there in about 20. I chose to drive around the block to kill a bit more time. When I got to reception I noticed that no one was there. I started doing a head to toe check and noticed that one shoe was laced differently from the other. That’s what I get for not checking that out before dressing up. In haste I relaced the whole thing. I was under pressure because I didn’t want to be the guy that had one shoe off in reception for an interview. That would make for an interesting first impression, no?

The interview itself was interesting. For the Perl section I managed to hold my own, but as is the nature of the beast there were maybe one or two things that made me curse at myself: Why the hell did I know that type of special syntax? I just wrote down any assumptions and carried on. The linux section was a mild bust. The database section was OK. Overall, it wasn’t 100% but I didn’t embarrass myself. The verbal presentation went well. I wrote out notes the night before, and rehearsed things a few times. I tried to keep it to 10 minutes but I kept going over. In person, I spoke with as much clarity as I could muster. I am prone to mush mouth if I’m not careful. I think I made it through without getting lost. The follow up questions weren’t bad. I think apart from one odd question I gave them all the info they wanted. I left the office feeling like I didn’t screw it up horribly. I knew that even if I didn’t get the job the interview was a good experience. Win-win if you ask me.

Off the rack

You know Moores is having a buy one, get one sale on suits, shirts, ties, etc? I ended up getting a pinstriped charcoal suit, and a dark grey one-button suit. With the shirts, ties, and a pair of shoes the whole things came out to a bit over $800. I was kind of expecting to pay that much anyway for a new suit, but the fact that I got a second suit out of the deal is pretty sweet. I ended up saving about $650 or so.

See, I suppose I could have gone the custom route, but I’m at a point where I kind of need a suit sooner rather than later. The last time I bought a suit was back in 2006. And surely, that suit no longer fits me. When I went in store, after the salesman measured me he had me try on something in a size 40. Immediately, the jacket fit me quite nicely. The shoulder width was perfect. The fit was really good; I had no reservations about how it looked. That’s a first. Back then, I always felt like the jackets seemed far too big, but I didn’t really have a choice. Due to my size I had to opt for bigger, and things never really fit right. This time: bang on. The salesperson said that I’m lucky to be in a state where having something off-the-rack works. Maybe the only issue is that the pants are ever so slightly snug. They’re about half an inch smaller than my waist size, but I’m still able to breathe. Maybe I can manage to lose an inch off the waist before the suits have to be used. I don’t know. We’ll see.

Why do I need a suit sooner rather than later? Not going to talk about it openly (yet), but, I suppose the answer is obvious. I’ll report more if and when something happens. Umm…yeah.

Read between the lines, eh?

Scarf revelation

Seriously. After all this time, how did I manage to get through many winters without the aid of a scarf? How did I put up with having a chilly neck? With today’s frigid temperatures I decided to head to Mexx to pick up a new toque and scarf. I never thought of myself as a scarf person, but I figured I’d give it a shot. Sweet mercy, that scarf made me so comfortable out there. Even with the winds blowing at my face I felt like I could take on anything. All this time I’ve been going without one like a chump! Ugh!

Ubiquity in leather

Back in February I was happy to reward myself for hitting a certain milestone on my weight loss journey by purchasing a new leather jacket. Hey, I was happy with it. I mean, it was on sale and it looked good on me. No problem, right? The jacket has particular details and a certain styling to it that I can pick out. Well, slowly over the next few months I was slowly starting to get annoyed. I was seeing my jacket style on a handful of other people. First there was this guy at work. He had the same jacket. No problem because we were on different floors and hardly ran into each other. Still, the fact was that we’d come in some days looking like we coordinated somehow. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened in my workplace. I think week later I saw a dog trainer with his own TV show on television wearing the jacket style two sizes two big for him. Weeks later I saw a weather newscaster on the 24 hour news channel wearing the same jacket. Seriously.

So, thankfully summer rolled around and I could give the jacket a rest. No problem. I could reassess by the time cooler weather rolled around. I was able to avoid wearing the jacket though when I bought a thin fall jacket from Rudsak. I really love this store’s urban style, and how they don’t mass-produce. If you get a piece from there, you know it won’t be everywhere. Anyway, when the leather jacket finally made it back into my daily rotation, I started seeing it even more frequently. One guy on the streetcar had it. I saw one on the subway. I saw it on an older guy in church. I’ve seen it in the grocery store. All of that made me nuts! Just the other day I decided to throw in the towel and seek out a new jacket to swap in as my main leather go to. I ended up going back to Rudsak and ended up getting a new leather jacket. I swear, I love how this jacket looks!

Sorry, it’s hard to take self-photos. The photo doesn’t really do the jacket justice, but yeah, I can rest easy again, yes? I can consider this as a late birthday gift. If I feel good wearing it, then it shows that I made a good choice, right? And I doubt I’ll end up seeing a glut of this jacket out on the street. Right on.

About the shirts

Earlier today at work I was wearing a white oxford with contrasting vertical stripes. Underneath I had a black t-shirt on just for layering and moisture control. Prior to heading out the door I wasn’t too sold on the how I looked, but I was running out of time, so I just went with it. At work, when I dropped by the washroom I took a good look in the mirror. My shirt was slightly untucked and looking pretty wonky. Overall, I decided that I didn’t like my shirt at all. Too much contrast was going on with the stripes and the shirt. And on top of the black tee it all just looked odd. I tried adjusting the shirt a bit, like unbuttoning the top button. Overall, it just wasn’t doing anything for me, but I figured I could make it through the day. Five minutes after I sat down again at my desk, I just felt entirely annoyed. I used the reasoning that the office was becoming too warm and took the shirt off leaving me with my black tee. I guess I didn’t look bad or anything, but I just felt odd. It’s not the same type of oddness that I experienced with the striped shirt. Rather, I’m not usually the type of person that goes to work or meets with people in just a t-shirt.

No, when I interact with people, I’d rather be wearing a shirt that has a proper collar on it. I don’t think I can pinpoint when this became a thing for me. Through high school, having gone to a Catholic high school I had to wear a uniform. I’m sure that probably helped get me comfortable with the idea of collared shirts. At some point after that, I think I developed an attitude that I could not look respectable without a collared shirt. It didn’t matter if it was kind of dressy or not; polos and golf shirts were just fine with me. Through university, short-sleeved collared shirts became a mainstay of my wardrobe. If I had to wear a long-sleeve shirt, I always ended up rolling the sleeves up to reveal my forearms. See, again, the look wasn’t about being formal.

Flash forward to today, and I cannot feel comfortable just wearing a tee. At work, after removing the collared shirt, it took me a few minutes of self-perceived awkwardness before I put my jacket on to regain some level of comfort. Pfft. I wasn’t going to put the collared shirt back on; putting on the jacket was a good option. This was despite saying just earlier that it was getting warm in the office.

Now don’t get me wrong, I like my cotton t-shirts. Usually I use them for layering purposes, or for stuff to wear around the house. I don’t really care if anyone else wears just t-shirts to work. Just, for me personally, I can’t take myself seriously without a collar. Necessary! Just like everybody else, I like presenting a good image to the world, and if I can’t take myself seriously, who else will?

A wrinkly shirt and a bit of gravy

When I was picking what I wanted to wear this morning, I was wearing my black jeans, so I knew that I wanted to pick something that would contrast against it, which mean that my dark shirts weren’t right for the moment. I ended up picking out this beige linen shirt that I’ve had for a long while. Yeah, since it’s old it’s a size or two larger. I was running late, so I made the decision to not iron it. To my eyes it didn’t look that horrible. I figured that if I tucked the shirt in properly it wouldn’t look that bad. Really, it didn’t at the time.

About midday, I stopped by the bathroom before heading out to pick up lunch. I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror and was kind of shocked at how sloppy I looked. The wrinkly nature of the linen shirt was more evident. The tucked-ness of the shirt was variable, which I should have expected. After all, it’s not like I was standing still. All of a sudden, I didn’t feel comfortable at all. After picking up lunch, I actually accidentally splattered a bit of gravy on the shirt. That was my cue. I actually went out to Queen St. W and went shopping for a few shirts. Time to replace a few things in my closet, right? Mexx had their whole stock on sale for half-price so I ended up getting a couple of shirts from there. As soon as I got back to office, I changed shirts and immediately I started feeling better about myself.

I’m only telling this story now because this seems to have become a common pattern for me. It’s not like I didn’t care about how I looked before, but it’s been ramped up over the past few months. There really is a lot of truth about looking good being correlated to feeling good. I’m doing so much to transform myself physically, that I might as well care about what I’m wearing too, right? It’s not like I’m becoming snobbish or obsessive, though details and fit should matter, right? If I buy correctly, both shouldn’t be an issue I have to be actively conscious about.

See. All of this came about just because of a wrinkly shirt and a bit of gravy. Geez, man.

Favourite shirts

Yeah, I’ve written about how a lot of my clothes have become kind of tent-like due to my weight loss. Like I said before, I’m sort of in the process of replacing things but really a lot of my old stuff still remains in my daily rotation. I can’t just get rid of it all, eh? Anything that doesn’t look entirely ridiculous still gets some use. It’s kind of sad though when some of my well-worn shirts start getting borderline.

I have a dark blue button down shirt that should have been replaced a long while back due to age, but is still usable. This morning, due to have a lot of my clothing being in the hamper I decided to use this shirt. When I put it on, it didn’t look like I was swimming in it. When I tucked it in I noticed that it bunched up fairly easily due to all of the extra fabric. I figured that if I arranged it properly it wouldn’t look so bad. As I went about my day though, every time I passed by a reflective surface I kept noticing how it just looked off. This thing just looked one or two sizes too big and didn’t look all that flattering. Honestly, I felt pretty uncomfortable all day.

So yeah, I think it’s really time to stash these things away and actively find more things to add into the rotation. I can’t go around feeling self-conscious, like I feel like I look odd. People sniff that kind of thing out and treat you accordingly, eh?

Takes a real man to wear purple

How many times am I going to second guess wearing my purple shirt? Wear it with confidence or don’t wear it at all! Damn.

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