Category Archive: was just thinking…

“You haven’t changed a bit!”

“You haven’t changed a bit! You still look the same!”

Really? I hadn’t seen this person in about five years. In this period there’s been so much in terms of change and transformation. Of course, it’s not like she could judge all of the internal shifts that have gone on with just a minute of conversation. From a physical perspective though, does it genuinely look like nothing changed? I know no harm was intended, but considering all of the hard work, sweat, and tears I’ve expended in an attempt to be a better Jason, saying that I’m still the same person as I was five years ago is kind of sad. And if I want to take it a step further, I could say it’s insulting. Thing is, she was being nice. She was trying to make a connection. In the end, what she says doesn’t really matter because it has no bearing whatsoever on our acquaintance status. So here I am just stewing in my own juices, extrapolating things too far for my own sanity. I suppose in some respects I haven’t changed much in five years after all.

A- or B+

The whole Type A and Type B personality theory division thing came up in conversation today. Out of curiosity I looked it up in Wiki and found this:

The theory describes a Type A individual as ambitious, aggressive, business-like, controlling, highly competitive, impatient, preoccupied with his or her status, time-conscious, and tightly-wound. People with Type A personalities are often high-achieving “workaholics” who multi-task, push themselves with deadlines, and hate both delays and ambivalence.

No, I don’t find myself matching every single bit of this definition, but I can see where a lot of that applies to my life. I push myself. I’m ambitious. When I’m sitting and not doing anything I tend to feel guilty. I do piles and piles of unrelated stuff and I tend to be great at a lot of it. A lot of what I do has some sense of urgency. All true, right? It sounds good on paper except for the fact that people who are Type A are more prone to coronary heart disease. Understandably so. That’s a lot of extra stress. So I’m wondering are there aspects of Type B personalities that I should learn to embrace? Both types can learn a thing or two from the other side. I need to relax. I need to take self-inflicted pressure off myself. There’s no reason to fall under one camp or the other. Maybe I should learn to be more like an A- or a B+. Seems a whole lot saner, don’t you think?

I am much more

I am much more than the things that I am not.

My happiness is not hampered by my shortcomings, but buoyed by living my life despite them.

For someone so smart…

For someone so smart, I'm really quite an idiot.
@jnery
Jay Nery

How not to ask for advice

Yeah…upon asking for help, don’t ignore my advice and insult me on my knowledge after the fact. Rather rude.

Every little detail

At some point, I need to stop analyzing the heck out of every little thought and every little detail that pops into my head. Once in a while it’s more valuable to just let things be and accept that things are the way they are. That in itself doesn’t need to be analyzed either. Just be, right?

Writing about Jason

I’m really not fond of writing bios. I mean, I find it hard enough to write about myself as if I was the bee’s knees (whether or not that’s actually true is irrelevant). Trying to convey an idea of who I am and what drives me in just a paragraph or two is rather difficult. We’re all quite multi-layered. Can we really be summarized so easily? Or course not. However, people don’t want a whole life story, right? People don’t need to know about all of my little neuroses in all their crazy splendour. All a bio needs to do is introduce a person, and make the reader think “Hmm, this guy is kind of interesting: I want to know more.” So, even though I may want to dump everything out in an attempt to achieve a lot more clarity, there’s just no need. My actions and activities will probably speak louder than anything I may put on paper. Isn’t there some fear with that though? Someone might read my bio and think, “Yeah…I don’t care to know any more about this person.” At that point it doesn’t matter anymore if you’ve done something ridiculously wonderful. You’ve already been judged. You’ve been sorted and filed.

There’s also the matter of keeping a bio up-to-date. This particular post was kind of spurred on when I was poking around the blog and found that my “About Jason” page was getting old. A while ago I took to actually including a date as to when the page was last updated. It seemed necessary all things considered. However I may describe myself at the time of writing won’t be true even just months later. How quickly should I update? Am I really having a moment of “Oh God, people ought to know that I’ve already accomplished all of that shit”?

In some places, the required bios are almost laughably limited. How the heck do I distill myself into a handful of characters. In Twitter, I’ve got:

Comp eng, e-commerce platform dev, Waterloo grad, flat-footed runner, unintentional foodie, improviser dude, tea drinker, and single guy in the city.

Well, that’s out of date. I’m not in e-commerce anymore, right? In my flavors.me profile I have:

20-something, runner, improviser, baker/cook, programmer.

That guy.

Probably accurate. Still, writing it this way seems like I’m only as good as my activities.

Why am I complicating all of this?

In the end, how the world perceives me doesn’t hold up as being as important as how I perceive myself. I am an awesome person, and words can’t really encapsulate all of that.

Taking the edge off

It’s been a bit of a work in progress. Over the years I’ve just gotten good at being defensive and removing myself from sources of hurt. In the end, it only means that a lot of it has been bubbling under the surface. Even one small nick or scratch can cause it all to come gushing out. It’s not a good state to be in. So, lately I’ve been working on finding the sore spots and acknowledging the things associated with that pain. I’m not brushing any of it off as trivial, because obviously if there’s pain it’s at least important on some level, right? All of this work is slowly taking the edge off. Maybe I’m not as manic or loopy as I might have been just a year ago. I’m still working on it, but I like the direction I’m headed.

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