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Restoring my faith in the city

After my last post or two, it may seem like I’ve lost a bit of faith in Tokyo. Fair enough, you know? I mean, it almost seems like this whole experience is just one insult to foreigners after another, right? It almost seems like all you can do is to just go along with it and not pay too much mind. Well, I have to be fair and say that Japanese people are really friendly. I think any misgivings that arise are really as a result of a few things. First, there’s a great deal of shyness that the locals have when communicating with someone that speaks English. As much they’ve been trained, there’s not much practical time when it comes to putting the language to good use. So, the result is that a lot of people are just plain afraid to try for fear of making a mistake. Frankly, I’m pretty much the same way when I try out my Japanese–I’m painfully shy! I can make the effort, but I’m also hung up on whether I was using polite language, or maybe whether I was using the correct inflections or vocabulary, etc etc. Lately I’ve been getting better at making the effort, but it’s still a struggle.

Anyway, despite all of this it’s easy to fall into a state of dislike for the place if you’re caught off guard. Today I did a few things that really helped me restore my faith in the city. First, thing I did was to find a RC church with and English mass and attend. I found one in Roppongi which makes sense due to it being considered a foreigner hangout. Due to an error in time adjustment instead of arriving half an hour early like I’d wanted, I actually arrived half an hour late. Anyway, despite that I felt quite at home in there. I mean, wow, I’ve never seen so many foreigners gathered in one place in Tokyo–not even in the airport. Seriously, I felt like I was back in Canada. So many of them were Filipinos too. It was mind boggling. I don’t know what happened, but for that mass in particular I was really moved. At the end, they asked people new and visiting to introduce themselves to the congregation. After each introduction there was a round of applause. I got to do my introduction, and wow, that was a good feeling. At the end, the announcer said something to the effect that they were happy to be people’s “spiritual home away from home,” I seriously nearly lost it. I was so deeply affected by it that I needed to take a few moments to regather my thoughts just to not start bawling. It’s so easy to feel isolated and lonely here: that’s why the warm welcome really got to me. After the mass, a parishioner came up to me and asked if I was Filipino in Tagalog. I replied that I was. We had a nice mini-chat after which she wished me a nice stay. I felt so good coming out of that place.

Well, after mass, I had a few hours to kill before my friend became available, so I decided on his suggestion to wander around the city and take in the people and the sites. So that’s what I did. I started wandering around Roppongi. I had intentions of going west over to the Meiji shrine and Harajuku on foot, but I got side-tracked and saw a familiar hospital that I passed by in the 2006 tour. Since it was familiar, I decided to see if I could somehow end up seeing any other familiar places. Somehow made it over to Azabu-Jūban. I think only one reader out there knows the significance of this place :P . Anyway, I bought a Pocari Sweat and drank it on Patio Jūban. Everyone in that district looks so posh! I continued to wander and ended up at Daimon and the area around Shiba Park–both places that I’d seen before. I decided to just keep going and I ended up at district after district. Shinbashi, Ginza, Nihonbashi, Akihabara, Ueno… I was surprised when I got to Ginza. The main artery through the shopping district was closed to cars and only allowed pedestrian traffic. Apparently this only happens on Sundays. Holy crap, why can’t we do that more often in Toronto? Seriously, if Tokyo can do that on what seems to be a major road, why can’t we? It was a popular area–so many people crowded the place. After four hours of straight walking I got tired and ended up stopping at Ueno park. I hit that fatigue point where I just needed to drink something sugary to get my glycogen levels back to normal.

From there, my friend called me to say that he was done with his business and asked me to meet him at Nihonbashi station on the subway. As I was on the subway, I was thinking that on the subway it took only a few minutes to get someplace it took me an hour or two to get from. Crazy. We went over to Yoyogi park and took in a random rave party. Don’t ask me. There was a lot of drunk naked people stumbling openly in daylight. There were kids running around with incense sticks. It’s not normally my scene, but damn, it was interesting to watch the general debauchery. I got a good laugh out of it.

From there, my friend, his friend and I walked all the way back through Roppongi to Azabu-Jūban. That was basically another 45 minute walk–honestly it felt like an eternity. We went there for some really great thin pizza at a place called Savoy. It’s a small place, but damn the food was awesome. The three of us finished off 4 small pizzas–well worth it. From there, we walked from Azabu to Roppongi to get some frozen yogurt.

That’s been my day. I can honestly say that the long walk helped me absorb more of the character of the city. I’m feeling a bit better about being here. It’s like…the city really only reveals its true nuances to those that are willing to explore a bit. All of the walking has wiped me out. I’m going to get a good night’s sleep. I have to be up early tomorrow to start the 7 day tour all over the country. It’s going to be fantastic!

Missed intentions

Today at the end of the mass the priest took a moment to talk about an incident involving one of the other priests. As it went, a family of parishioners confronted the priest in an angry manner regarding the fact that the mass intention that they had requested was not announced during the Sunday mass. From the way the story was being told, it seemed like they were getting all up in the priest’s face. The joke was that it made that priest’s blood pressure go up mid-week. Now, while being confrontational like that is ugly behaviour, doing that to a priest is just bad. And while doing that to a priest is bad, doing that to a priest after receiving communion just minutes before is horrible.

I don’t know. From what I’ve observed in weekly mass, the intentions aren’t announced on weekends (at this parish). They never have been. So, just to make sure it was clear, the the priest today emphasized the fact that this was the case. Glad that’s settled.

When we were in the car, my father started venting about how the office should be more careful in making sure people know the deal. I wasn’t sure why he was indignant, but then it became clear that he was still frustrated that I was once included in the prayers for the deceased back in 2006. After all this time, he was still kind of miffed. And yes, after all of this time I still find the whole thing to be funny. I’m stiiiiiiill not dead. Whatever.

To park where no man has parked before

I left work a little early today to make it to church to get ashes. With the snowstorm raging I knew it would be slow going. I was hoping to make it there with enough time though so that I could at least find parking. I did make it there with about five minutes to spare. I figured that the main lot would be full so I turned into the lot of the school next door. That was full as well though. There was a section of the paved part of the playground that was open, but there wasn’t anyone willing to go in there. I guess the snow looked just a little to thick in the area. Anyway, I turned and made my way out. As I came around, I was starting to run late so I thought that I was willing to take my chances with that snowy area.

I looped around and signalled to get back into the school lot. There was a car stuck in the slush right at the entrance of the lot. While I waited for it to get out of the way, I was blocking the only lane through. There was a bit of honking going on. Whatever! Patience, man! Well, eventually the car freed itself. I made the turn and was determined to not get stuck like that other car. Eh…well…as you might expect…I got stuck. I rolled down my windows to get a clear look at my sides to make sure there weren’t any approaching pedestrians. I started spinning my tired trying to get traction. No luck. My car was blasting a Bob Marley song that the radio station was playing. The juxtaposition of the reggae song and the slush/snow kind of made me laugh out loud. A pedestrian passed by and started cheering me on. I started turning my steering wheel back and forth. All the way left! All the way right! Spin spin spin! Eventually, I rocked free. The passer by laughed out loud and reminded me: “time to ease up, man!” Heh. Yeah.

I pulled up to that snowy area and even in those few minutes no one decided to go in there. I didn’t care anymore. I drove in and to my surprise the depth wasn’t all that bad at all. After parking, I left the car and headed for the church. I looked back at my path and thought that there was something somewhat gratifying about being the first guy to make tracks in the newly fallen snow–to park where no man had parked before. My entry in there was the invitation: I wanted people to drive in and park there because I had shown the way. OK, so maybe that’s a bit over-dramatic but I still got a bit of enjoyment out of it.

ETA: has? had? I guess “has” is more in running with that clichéd expression. Whatever.

May flowers

This past Saturday, he had what was expected to be a small gathering at our house. Every year, in May, my family participates in a prayer group. This weekend was our turn to host. Prior to the day, I had announced my intentions that I did not want to participate. I mean, I was there every year, and it was always pretty stressful for me. This year, I just wanted out. My mother wasn’t too happy about it. It wasn’t so much that she was disappointed that I didn’t want to participate in the prayer part, but that without me there, she would have little to no help. The social aspect of the event seemed to be very important to her. It wasn’t until a few days before Saturday that I relented and agreed to stay. I made it clear though that I was only doing it to help out.

On Friday, we started preparing the food that we’d be serving. I prepared a double batch of blueberry buckle. I also spent a lot of time washing vegetables, cutting fruit and washing dishes. The preparations went well into midday Saturday. By the afternoon, we were all exhausted. As we laid out everything that we had bought and prepared, we started thinking that it was way too much food. Of course, it’s better to overdo things, right? Our long dining table became a buffet area full of the main course parts. The round dining table held all of the desserts. When the prayer part started, we all piled down into the basement. It seemed like we had an average crowd. As it went on, I started seeing more and more people arrive. Those people had also brought food items. When the prayer part was done. I went upstairs to see what was going on. There was a sudden rush to get everything organized. With all of the new food, we were struggling to find spots for everything. The two tables were packed.

Soon enough, the crowd came upstairs to eat. That’s when I finally realized just how big the group was. I swear, there must have been 30+ people there. After people got their food, they were finding places to sit down. All of our main floor got good use. I had never seen so many people crammed out on the deck. As more people went out, my father and I were rushing to the basement, trying to get more chairs out there. The temperature inside the house rose to 27°C from all the people there. The air conditioning wasn’t really helping much at all.

I spent most of my time manning the sink. I took people’s plates and plunked them in the dishwasher. We eventually ran out of cutlery, so I spent a lot of time cleaning forks so that people could get dessert. In between that, I had the coffee maker and kettle going continually to get coffee and tea out. We ran out of some mugs, so I had to clean some out when they returned. This went on for 2-3 hours! I was damn exhausted! I only got a little bit of reprieve when my father turned on the karaoke machine.

(Hey…this was a Filipino get together…of course there was karaoke)

All this time, all I could think was, “man…if I had left, mom would be so screwed.”

I think…many of the people who came did so because of the karaoke and not so much the prayer part. What really struck me as interesting though was that many of the people who were more interested in the prayer part actually stayed for a good chunk of the night. If I recall correctly, in past years, they left in the early evening. I really don’t know what was different this time. They seemed to gather mostly in the sitting room (away from the singing), but they were comfortable having conversations and eating.

In the end, most of the food was gone. My mother and I were lamenting that there were some food items that we never had a chance to eat. Oh man. I can only imagine that next year, when it’s our turn again, the gathering will be just as large. I don’t want to admit it, but I’m sort of glad I stayed, you know?

I slept well that night–and with good reason. :)

To forgive and be forgiven

This entry touches a little bit on religion and some recent experiences with it. Feel free wait for the next entry if that’s not your cup of tea.

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I’m not dead yet

Since yesterday was my convocation, my mother decided to contact the church and have it offer one of the masses as a mass for thanksgiving. Fair enough. But really, how often do the living have something offered to them? It doesn’t happen often in my opinion. I really didn’t need a whole mass on a Sunday with me as an intention. So, anyway, during the mass, I was hoping that I wasn’t going to be mentioned. Seriously.

When it came to the part where there were prayers for the faithful, the intentions came and went, one by one, without a mention. I was relieved when they hit the names of the deceased, because that meant that they had gotten past the other intentions. That’s when it happened. They were praying for the souls of the members of the church who had passed on. I was listed.

I’m dead. Except that I’m not. I’m very much alive and well, thanks.

Someone behind the scenes must have thought that the mass offering was for someone dead, and not someone alive. I found it hilarious. Mom was all “what the….” Dad wasn’t paying attention. I explained it to him in the car, at which point he became livid and cursing anyone who may have been involved. Good show. You know, I really don’t need any correction made. It was a simple error. I don’t care. Let’s leave it at that. I found humour in the situation. My father wsa threatening to raise holy hell on the church. We got into a fight about it. Honestly, I don’t give two shits about it being wrong. Just because it was announced doesn’t mean that I’m suddenly going to get sick and die. Fuck it. It’s a mistake. Let it go. If I have, he should as well. Ugh!

So yeah, I’m not dead.

“Reports of my death have been greatly exaggerated”
-Mark Twain

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