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Offer of dinner

Earlier this evening I called my mother just to say hello. At some point the conversation turned to what I ate for dinner. I admitted to eating a quick frozen dinner. As much as I like cooking, making meals for one person has been tough. Whenever I spend time cooking something I usually end up with enough leftovers to last a few days. If I’m lucky I end up eating it all. Often, I end up with leftovers in the fridge that sit around way past the point where the food’s still good. Maybe it’s just a symptom of bad planning. I don’t know.

Upon hearing it, my mother told me that I should come over to their place after work on occasion to have dinner with the two of them. Well, who am I to reject an offer like that, right? No, I don’t plan on going there every night, because would an independent guy do such a thing? That being said I think sharing dinner with my parents wouldn’t be a bad thing. It would save me a bit of trouble. I’d be less likely to eat cereal for dinner.

Such is life when you’ve got all sorts of activities going, I guess.

The venue matters

Spent the afternoon with the family by attending the Good Friday service at the church close to us. This would be the first Easter weekend that I spent at this church. Even though I lived in the area last year I still made the trek over to the old church that I went to for a decade before. What I like about that old place is that it seems to be a bit more folk-oriented. It’s a bit more youthful and energetic. Overall, it’s a happy place. As good as it is, it’s kind of far. Since my parents moved, they’re about a 2 minute walk to a church. So that’s why I decided to join them this year. Well…I can now say that it makes me miss the other church. This one is larger and more beautiful, but it just doesn’t feel as inviting. It’s stuffy and has poor ventilation. The priests are old and speak softly. They carry the mass at a glacial pace. I was nodding off a few times. It wasn’t pretty.

Ideally, the venue shouldn’t matter, right? Practically, I still need to find a place where I want to spend time, know what I mean? Now, I just need to figure out how willing I am to travel far out east just to attend mass. Hmm.

The inevitable comment

It was inevitable.

Yesterday my parents and I went over to the airport to pick up some relatives from my father’s side visiting from the east coast. Lovely people. They have a 1-year-old son. I guess mom would be would be the baby’s cousin-twice-removed, but in Filipino nomenclature she’d be a grandmother (one level seniority over being an aunt…yeah) Seeing my mom gleefully pick up the little kid was something. She’s strong! Even my dad got into the action. He was silly when talking to the child in a way I hadn’t seen him…ever. And then the inevitable comment came from mom.

Jay, I hope you’ll find someone so that I can have a grandchild soon…

Yup. I mean, I get it. She’s not getting any younger. Would be great if I had a child I could show them, but alas my life isn’t at that point yet. Cant resent the parents for wanting grandkids. All the same…

Ugh.

In town with mom

My parents don’t really venture downtown all that much. It’s mostly because they’re unfamiliar with it and my father kind of has a bit of taste aversion for the place. I wouldn’t call it a phobia, but he certainly wouldn’t want to be walking around there. Anyway, on several occasions my mom’s expressed interest in heading into the city with me. I think she missed being in more populous areas. I decided to make Saturday the day when we’d head down. I warned her though that there would be a lot of walking involved. Just like me she has horribly flat feet. And just like me walking around for extended periods used to be tough. Luckily, I know that the time she’s been putting into going to the gym has made her a lot stronger.

I walked over to their place early in the morning and head a bit of breakfast before the two of us headed out. We took the bus down to the subway station, and from there we headed into town. As we rode, I pointed out different stations where I’d get off to do my day-to-day activities. In doing so she got some sense of just how far I had to travel to get to things. It just so happened that this weekend a portion of one of the subway lines was closed. Unfortunately it was a section that we were planning on using. Instead I took her on a detour to a nearby station, and from there we walked to the downtown mall. As we walked I kept a close eye on her. I wanted to make sure she wasn’t feeling uncomfortable. She held up remarkably well. Really, she was spending some time just taking in the sights, and that was fine with me. When we arrived at the Eaton Centre she seemed kind of excited. She hadn’t been there in many years. I just followed her around for a bit before we split off. We agreed that she’d give me a call when she was done. I just wandered around looking at random things.

After we were done shopping we agreed to head to Chinatown. It’s a bit of a walk, and I think it would have been fine, but she revealed to me that she wasn’t really wearing sensible footwear. Well, midway there I decided it would be prudent to take a break and have lunch. We stopped by a Korean restaurant, and that’s where I introduced her to bibimbap. She enjoyed it, which made me happy. After that and a short visit to my favourite tea shop (she noticed that they knew my name) we hiked up to Chinatown. She seemed excited to go shopping for some exotic fruit. She ended up buying a dragon fruit just out of novelty. Since we were in the area I also took her through Kensington Market to visit some bakeries and the European deli. All throughout, people were milling about carrying out business as usual. I thought that it was a good thing to show mom that Toronto really can be a lively place. It’s easy to forget that if all you see are the suburbs.

When we were done instead of taking the subway all the way back I decided to have us take the 506 streetcar across town back to our neck of the woods before taking a subway and bus back home. I figured that it would expose her to other neighbourhoods that she would probably never otherwise see. We agreed that even though the streetcar was slower and more crowded, at least there would be more to look at.

In the end, I think she was satisfied with the outing. I’m sure she wants to head out again another weekend. I kind of want to show her how to access the trains from Union Station on her own, and I want to check out the St. Lawrence Market together one morning. I want her to experience the city as I’ve come to know it from working downtown. Those are all noble goals, but ultimately I’m just glad to be spending time with her. Ever since moving out we really haven’t done much together. This time is golden. Need to take advantage while I can, you know?

Things unanswered

There was a period on Saturday afternoon where I was feeling particularly tired and just took a long nap. I was scheduled to head over to my parents’ place for dinner, and I planned to venture over by about 5 p.m. My nap went long though, and the next thing I know it was getting close to 7 p.m. When I got up out of bed I noticed that my phone wasn’t in the bedroom. I walked out and found it in the living room. When I turned it on I noticed that my parents had called 7 times in the span of a few hours. They had also filled my inbox with increasingly worried voicemails. I can only imagine the panic my mom was feeling when she couldn’t leave any more messages. Well, seeing as how they’re only a 5 minute drive away, I decided to just get my stuff together and drive over as soon as possible. When I got to their front door I saw a note saying that they had left and were en route to check on me at my place. Bah.

So, as it turns out my mom thought that I had collapsed or something because I usually have a good turn around for my phone calls. She was of the opinion that if I had collapsed or had a stroke it would be important to get to the problem earlier rather than later. I think, in my mind, she might have been worried that I had done something more drastic. After all, I’d been expressing symptoms of depression and being down as of late. She didn’t express it explicitly, but I think that was hanging in the air. Frankly, as much as I think it was an overreaction the reasoning behind it is appreciated. It makes me wonder though, have I been that unhealthy as of late? I’m doing my best to be strong. Am I just taking the wrong approach? Hmm.

Jason’s 2010

I actually started writing this post out a few days before tonight. There’s a lot to cover in a year and I wanted to make sure that I spent more than a bit of time getting my thoughts together. Yeah, without thinking about it too much, my first response is to call 2010 a banner year. Yes, there were hardships along the way, and a lot of hard work was needed just to continue moving forward. All the same, I wouldn’t take any of it back. There’s so much that I wouldn’t have even dreamt of in 2009. It was that kind of year.

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Wasted energy

So, I was going to write about how this is probably the first Christmas holiday where I was really feeling the effects of being single, but thanks to the “Back then” widget I read a cryptic post that made me think: yeah I sure as hell know what that post was about. Anyway, I spent the holiday over at my parents’, and they’re still awesome, if not mildly wacky. Even though I had them and was socializing, I was feeling down for being a lone wolf. Now, I realize that I can’t continue to complain about it if I’m not doing anything to remedy the situation. And, I’m not. So if there’s anyone to blame, it’s entirely on me. For now, I just don’t have any patience for the process, or any confidence that I’m what someone’s looking for.

At this rate I suspect I’ll be feeling the same way next Christmas. Although…perhaps I can find my way into that sweet spot where I’m truly content just “being.” I am a strong self-sufficient independent guy. I refuse to let this point of weakness be a source of needless angst. It’s just wasted energy!

(Fuck that shit.)

True escape?

My condo is a disaster zone.

Escaping to the parents’ place for the holiday.

Oh…but is that really an escape?

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